More breakups happen around the holidays than any other time of year. Maybe it’s the cold weather, or the excitement of something new, new years resolution, or just brain shifting into change mode, but the holidays can bring about breakup faster than santa delivers presents around the world in one night.
If your girlfriend just broke up with you around the holidays, you can bet she probably made an emotional decision based on the pyscological changes associated with the time of year. It’s also a really hard time to lose one because it’s so cold and there’s not as many hot chicks walking around that you can pick up. It’s a time to hibernate, and believe me, hot girls hibernate.
So, you gotta get her back, cause lets face it, what sorry sucker wants to sit around the most joyus time of the year lonely? It would be way harder to land another chick, especially this time of the year, when you could just get the one you had back. You gotta pull back. My number one tip?….
#1: Leave her alone. It’s called “emotional clingyness.” You need to give the impression that you are higher on the social scale than she is, even if she left you. It may be very hard to do, you’ll have contradicting feelings, but you have to leave her alone. Let her call you. And when she does, don’t be all debby downer. Have some shit happening in your life that you can tell her about when she asks what you’ve been up to. It can be WHATEVER as long as it’s not moping around the house and thinking about her all day.
What does this do? It raises your social value and automatically makes her slightly more attracted to you. Depending on the person this could make a big difference, but regardless this step is a CRUCIAL first in getting your ex back.
There is a lot that I could teach you, but the one thing that may be the most important is that if you want something bad enough, you can get it. But it has to start from inside of you with a burning desire.
What do you have a burning desire for? Answer your inside questions first. Be hard with yourself. Be hard on yourself. I have a lot of information on this website to help guide you as well as tools that have helped me before. But nothing can be achieved without defining what you want first. Then its just up to you to take the actions necessary to make something happen.
So you’re taking a break? This is a make-or-break period of time. There was a reason for it, but you should know that most relationships that take a break are never the same after. There are a few things you should consider / do on your break:
1. Go out and do stuff! Many times you come wrapped up in a relationship and get sucked into only hanging out with that person (it can very easily turn into this, and you don’t see it until the relationship stops and you’re like “damn, what should I do?”
2. Meet new people. You always gotta keep you’re hustle on, why? Because she’s meeting new people too. You don’t want her coming back like “Oh I just met this *Awesome* new guy at this bar who’s sooo funny* when you have nothing to say back. ”Oh damn, I just met this new Xbox game… uh…” Yeah, her attraction just took a nose dive down Niagra Falls for you. Get your act together and get your social on.
3. Have a purpose. At some point you need to be the leader and lead the relationship. When you are the man in the relationship, you show dominance and that is one of the attraction switches for women. They want to be led around and told what to do. If you think the relationship has gone past the point of break, or she’s already moving away from you, you need to take some quick action. If you want her back, check out my guides section for a plan to get her back.
I’ll tell you why–because there are millions of girls out there. Don’t believe me? Go out of your normal area, hit the beach, start making friends. I guarantee you’ll start seeing out of the box. Every once in a while, a special one comes around that you’re going to want to keep. You gotta learn how to keep that girl under your wing and not leave. I try and help people do exactly that.
I’ll tell you why–because there are millions of girls out there. Don’t believe me? Go out of your normal area, hit the beach, start making friends. I guarantee you’ll start seeing out of the box. Every once in a while, a special one comes around that you’re going to want to keep. You gotta learn how to keep that girl under your wing and not leave. I try and help people do exactly that.
(At times you let that one slip away. DON’T LET THAT HAPPEN TO YOU!!! Learn how to keep her.
What girls like and what you should give them are two totally different things. What girls really like are glittery gold, to be treated like a princess, romantic nights, nice clothes, expensive drinks. Not every girl is like this (because sometimes you’ll meet that one that just likes to wear jeans, chill with the guys, hit up mcdonalds), but in the end, she’ll grow up and deep down she wants to be a woman with nice things.
But if you supplicated her and provided her with every wish, would you win? It’s a paradox. You won’t win. Everyone wants what they can’t have. So what do you give them?
You give them exactly what you want them to have which is… whatever you want! If she deserves a nice dinner, give it to her! But only if she deserves it. She treats you like shit? Don’t buy her gifts! Don’t give her more attention than she deserves.
When you give her what she deserves, and give her only what you want, she will begin to be trained just like you want her to be. And she will begin to accept what you give her as normal and not EXPECT to be taken out every night. Once you get her where you want, you will be respected and in a much better position. Don’t just give her what she wants, give her what you want to give her.
What girls like and what you should give them are two totally different things. What girls really like are glittery gold, to be treated like a princess, romantic nights, nice clothes, expensive drinks. Not every girl is like this (because sometimes you’ll meet that one that just likes to wear jeans, chill with the guys, hit up mcdonalds), but in the end, she’ll grow up and deep down she wants to be a woman with nice things.
But if you supplicated her and provided her with every wish, would you win? It’s a paradox. You won’t win. Everyone wants what they can’t have. So what do you give them?
You give them exactly what you want them to have which is… whatever you want! If she deserves a nice dinner, give it to her! But only if she deserves it. She treats you like shit? Don’t buy her gifts! Don’t give her more attention than she deserves.
When you give her what she deserves, and give her only what you want, she will begin to be trained just like you want her to be. And she will begin to accept what you give her as normal and not EXPECT to be taken out every night. Once you get her where you want, you will be respected and in a much better position. Don’t just give her what she wants, give her what you want to give her.
Hygeine is extremely important, and can be fixed so easily most of the time!! Here are my suggestions for common problems:
1. Teeth & Breath. This is pretty easy, because toothbrushes cost about $1 each. I party a lot so I almost always carry around an extra toothbrush in my leather jacket. Pretty funny right? Well when I roll over to my girl’s house I have a toothbrush right there with fresh breath and I don’t have to worry.
Hygiene is extremely important, and can be fixed so easily most of the time!! Here are my suggestions for common problems:
1. Teeth & Breath. This is pretty easy, because toothbrushes cost about $1 each. I party a lot so I almost always carry around an extra toothbrush in my leather jacket. Pretty funny right? Well when I roll over to my girl’s house I have a toothbrush right there with fresh breath and I don’t have to worry.
2. Feet. Straight up, I carry extra socks in my bag. I also have 2 pairs of shoes. This is really important because if you only have one, they will start to stink. And it’s so not cool to have a girl complain about your feet smell when you’re making out with her. wow. You have 2 pairs of shoes? It lets on air out before you put your feet back in them for another day of pounding.
3. BO. No one ever told me, but there is Anti-perspirant, and there is Deodorant, and there is Antiperspirant+Deodorant. You need the latter. Anti-perspirant, you will still stink. DO you will still sweat. There is a very specific kind that is both, and I like to get the hard gel so that it doesn’t show up white on my black shirts and it doesn’t get too dry or too wet. That is money.
Wow. It seems like there is a LOT of bad advice going on around. Let me address a few that I’ve heard:
You have to have balls to talk to her and tell her how you really feel. That = Bullshit!!!! Why? She already knows how you feel. You probably already tried to explain it to her and failed, that’s why you’re still broken up. Somehow, you came across as needy because you really “need her” and that actually pushed her farther away. In this case, you’re going to have to fake it for a little while until you can get over being needy before you can start pushing her attraction triggers to actually get her back.
Ignore her. Right, you could ignore her, but most likely she broke up with you. And if she broke up with you, that means she is emotionally feeling not as attracted to you, nor hanging out with you (at least as much as before). If you totally ignore her you are going to look like you are running away from your problems (and you will become very distant from her as well). There is the thought that “if I ignore her, she’ll see how important I was in her life and how much she needs me” but that’s not exactly how it’s going to work. Instead, while you’re sitting around the house thinking about how much she should be thinking about you, she’s probably out playing beer pong with some dudes in jerseys trying to lick her face before they invite her back into their room to watch “Wedding Crashers” then f**k the shit outta her. oops. Guess totally ignoring her didn’t work.
Move On. This is actually the closest to “good” advice that I’ve heard. Yes you could move on, because sometimes break ups are MEANT to happen and they should. But other times, there is just one person in the relationship who’s Dad didn’t teach them enough about women, and it is going to take a little interneting (internet learning) to get up to speed. No need to be embarrassed. You can do something about it now and change it all around, because this is LIFE! Hell yeah. Now go get em!
Californication is a kick ass show from Showtime. I actually watched this a few years ago and really enjoyed it. The basis is that David Dechovney plays a bad ass writer gone bad that is suffering from long term writers block as well as his major relationship issues. He has no problem getting laid (and often does) but the problem is, he’s still in love with his wife.
The entire first season deals with crazy antics and plotlines of him being the bad ass that he is and trying to nonchelantly (but intensely at the same time) trying to win his ex-wife back. The show is awesome and inspiring, and would definitely recommend it.
Alright I’m off to watch seasons 2, 3, and 4 since I just learned they are out now!
I’ve been getting a lot of questions about the Ex2 System lately and I wanted to take some time to give you my thoughts. I’ve written a few blog posts on here in general about relationships but it this is a hot topic because of all the new psychological reasearch and pickup community material that is now out there. It seems like before, guys never knew what to do to pick up women and just accepted the terms as “you just will never understand women.” and that was the end of it.
Good news is, that era is over.
Not only is it over, it’s been smashed out of oblivion. Now there are proven systems and ways to hit women’s emotional triggers to get them to do what you want. It’s not a “oh well I hope that this will happen” or “I guess I’m not good enough or good looking enough” or whatever. This kind of BS thinking is just not the truth anymore, and the Ex2 System is one example of it.
My story (the short version) is that about a year ago my relationship ended with a girl that I really thought I had the possibility of being with for the rest of my life. When we broke up I was crushed, mostly because I didn’t see it coming. I had put a lot of myself into the relationship, and a lot of time. I quickly realized I didn’t have much else going on which made me think about her all the time. And I tried to be cool about it, because everytime she called after it happened (which was only a few times) she seemed pretty happy, which was really hard for me. I spent a lot of time debating what to do.
I spent hours searching around the internet for how to get my ex back, posting on forums, asking friends. Turns out there are bunch of e-books out there for this kind of stuff. I thought it was pretty wacky. But after a while I started getting upset and I decided that I wanted her back. If I was spending this much time on thinking about her, she really did mean something special to me. I had to get her back. So I decided to try the book and I got this book because it sounded like the most legit book I’d been hearing about. I read it all that night and started to follow the steps. Honestly, no BS, I was floored. I hadn’t read something like this ever. Advice? I’ve heard it all. But this actually made sense and wasn’t just there to make me “feel good.” I don’t care about that. What I cared about was getting her back, and the fact that it worked is the biggest endorsement I could give.
Check it out for yourself here. The dude gives a money back guarantee if it doesn’t work.
After it did actually work for me, I started helping other people out with their relationships because I felt like I had a new found understanding of women and their emotional triggers. So I started this blog, and I want you to have the same experience. If you want to understand women better, get your ex back, whatever, try it for yourself. And hell, worst, WORST case scenario possible–you get all your money back. And best case scenario? You get exactly what you want. Here’s my link, check it out, there is some free advice there too:
I’ve been feeling pretty mixed lately, and sometimes when things are so hard on your mind, you just need to change it up and do something different. You need some clear perspective, so what do I do? Bring back some music, and I’d def recommend something that will pump you up, or at least brighten your spirits. Sometimes its the lyrics, sometimes its just the music, but music seems to just bring me up. Here’s a track for you for today:
